Reflecting on Real Life Cases

Throughout our lives, we face situations in which our reaction can be passive, aggressive or assertive.

By reflecting on these experiences, we can analyze our behaviors and learn how to react more effectively in the future.

Reaction to poor service: In a restaurant, a passive person might accept a poorly cooked meal to avoid conflict, while an aggressive person might abuse the waiter.

An assertive response would be to calmly summon the manager, explain the problem, and ask not to pay for a meal that was not consumed.

Refusing a request: A colleague asking you to work overtime can be a difficult situation.

A passive person might reluctantly agree, while an aggressive person might berate the colleague.

An assertive response would be to say that you understand the importance of the request, but that you already have commitments and cannot take on more work.

Handling a subordinate: If a subordinate is recurrently late, a passive boss might tolerate it for fear of conflict, while an aggressive boss might verbally abuse his subordinate.

An assertive boss would address the problem directly, explaining the consequences of lateness and requesting that the schedule be respected.

Behavior in front of friends: If a friend asks you for a favor that you cannot fulfill, a passive individual might beat around the bush, expecting you to guess what he wants, while an assertive individual would say directly and politely that he has a request, giving the other person the freedom to say yes or no.

Confrontation with a customer: In a store, if a customer complains about a product, an aggressive employee might react unprofessionally and sarcastically.

An assertive employee would show empathy for the situation and cooperatively seek a solution, avoiding unnecessary conflict.

Summary

Throughout our lives, we are faced with situations in