Self-Coaching: The Pride of Initiating a Process of Change

Recognizing the Courage of the Decision

When a person makes the significant decision to undertake a coaching process, whether with a professional or through self-coaching, it is critical that he or she recognize and value the sense of personal pride associated with that step.

Initiating a path of self-discovery and transformation is a very important decision that most people, unfortunately, fail to make.

They prefer to stay in their comfort zone, even if it does not fully satisfy them.

Therefore, taking this step is really something to be very proud of, an act of courage.

You, by initiating your self-coaching, or your future coachee by seeking your accompaniment, have made this courageous decision.

Pride as an Indicator of Commitment

If you perceive that a coachee (or yourself in your self-coaching process) is not really proud of what he or she is doing, this could be a worrying sign. It could signal a lack of commitment in the medium or long term.

Perhaps the person does not have full confidence that the process will work, or perhaps he or she is not willing to do what it takes to make it work.

Genuine pride in the decision made often goes hand in hand with greater involvement and determination to see the process through to its conclusion.

Hiding the Process: Possible Reasons

If in your conversation with a client, they mention that they have not told anyone that they have started a coaching process, this could be due to a number of reasons, but the most likely are usually two:

• Fear of Expectations: he may not want to advance expectations about an outcome he doesn't yet know if he will achieve. In this case, you need to work with him on confidence and commitment to the process, regardless of the final outcome.
• Perception of Weakness: He may not want to be seen as "weak" for needing a coaching process to achieve his goals. In this situation, what needs to be worked on are your limiting beliefs around coaching itself.

Reframing Coaching as a Strength

It is critical to counter the misconception that needing coaching is a weakness.

Please! Most people don't even actively pursue their goals.

If a person turns to a coaching process to make something they want in life a reality - a dream, a desire, a goal - that's a wonderful thing and something to be super proud of, without a doubt.

It demonstrates proactivity, self-awareness and courage - admirable qualities, since, as has been said, most don't even try.

Reinforcing the Courage of Commitment

Whatever the case, it is likely that the coachee (or yourself) needs to reinforce the idea that transforming one's self-awareness and reality requires courage.

He or she should feel real pride that he or she is committing to that personal challenge,