Errors when setting limits

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Don't worry if you've made some of the mistakes we'll mention. Practice is essential for improvement. The important thing is to know how to recognize these mistakes in order to correct and adapt them.

Denial.

Saying "no" all the time can be overwhelming. This can make it difficult to enjoy certain activities. It can also make it more difficult to perceive why you can't do certain things. Instead of focusing on what you don't like, try approaching the problem from another angle:

• How about instead of pressing the buttons on your cell phone hard, you press them gently?

• Wouldn't you rather instead of yelling, talk and tell me what's wrong?

The constant use of "no" should only be used in serious, life-threatening situations. If it becomes a habit, it will lead them to think, "Mom doesn't want me to have fun. She's always telling me no."

You are limiting their sense of adventure, especially when they are not yet seven years old and want to discover everything. If you go on an excursion to an island and the tour guide prevents you from exploring, you might feel frustrated and disappointed, right?

On the other hand, if the guide accompanies you in your desire to discover paradise and assures you that "we will go as far as we can together", he is showing concern for your safety.

Children who grow up in an environment with boundaries tend to develop stronger social and emotional skills. This allows them to interact effectively with others and handle situations where they must respect other people's personal space.

Complex tasks.

A common mistake is not understanding that children need to gain autonomy through small tasks. If you tell a two-year-old to reflect on his actions, he probably won't understand you and start crying.

Instead, you can help him gain confidence through small, developmentally appropriate tasks. For example, you can ask him to put away his toys before mealtime and remind him afterwards. This will allow him to develop skills and responsibilities.

Not explaining or remembering.

Sometimes we forget to remember instructions we have previously given. Younger children have more difficulty remembering things because their long-term memory is not yet fully developed. So their learning is based on the experiences they have in the present.

For this reason, it is important to remind them to put away their toys, especially when we notice that they are losing interest in the activity they are doing.

The invasion of emotions.

If we only remember limits when we lose patience, they may not relate it to their behavior and think we are taking out our frustration and anger on them.

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