Ask assessment questions

Assessment questions are very important for the construction of our children's personality. We can encourage them to find the answer that will lead them to a better reasoning about the events in their life.

We need them to take control over their emotionality and how to lead it to a favorable well-being. For all parents it is a privilege that our children come to us with doubts, that we are for them the source of consultation and their most trusted person. In this way we can introduce ourselves to their infantile universe to generate empathy and a better parental guidance. If we do not take care of their concerns, they will become insecure adults, lacking family understanding and dysfunctional personalities.

Initial questions.

When our children are faced with emotional confrontations, where they must decide how to resolve the conflict, we can ask them the following questions: How do you feel about the events? The goal is for our children to express themselves by their own means and even if we intuit some things, we should not make assumptions. What do you want to change?

We give them the opportunity to evaluate their current situation by identifying how much an event affects them. What can you do to change things? It is interesting to make them aware of their abilities and the limits that should not be exceeded to strengthen their notion of danger.

Right or wrong.

An important aspect of questioning is for the young person to recognize what is right and what is wrong. The most frequent question is What do you think would be the right thing to do? As we try to explore their emotionality, learning to feel and define what they want is necessary to identify how they don't want to feel. Children are usually not born with the ability to lie in complex situations, so they can become aware of the wrong attitudes or actions around them and it is good to show them how to avoid them.

Consequences.

All decisions have a path or derived consequences. Since children begin to have a valuative thinking, we can teach them the benefits or disadvantages of some attitudes they take. What result do you think you can obtain? It is not always possible to be successful when we think in terms of our own solutions, so we must let them know that the results may be unexpected. The consequences of erroneous decisions lead to conflicts that can later aggravate and have repercussions in unfavorable experiences such as low self-esteem or excessive introspection.

The bottom line.

Children, especially at early learning ages, often blame other children for mistakes that involve them. Mostly siblings argue constantly during the process of living together and exchanging information. Everyone is looking for the reason that will free them from guilt, but have they managed to understand what is most imp