Asking questions of value

We believe that we cannot be taken as much into account as we want with our children and this becomes a problem, since they are an important part of our lives.

We constantly try to solve most of their concerns, but how effective are we in this? Many times the attention is dissociated because we fail to reach them as they need. The solution is not all the time in our response to the young people's problems, but in knowing how to guide them so that they get from themselves a coherent solution to their need. So are we asking the right questions? We can make them reflect with questions of value to them, questions that stimulate the rational use of their emotional intelligence, to get the best possible experience from situations.

Throughout the education process, children should feel that they are learning to be autonomous when they overcome their own adversities.

Attention.

We adults are immersed in the daily life and great conflicts typical of our age. Sometimes we tend to assume that the problems of our youngsters are less complicated than our own, and this is the mistake. The first resource by means of which we will be able to know the worries that our children communicate to us is when we listen to them attentively. Young people do not yet have all the tools to handle certain situations, so those tools are provided by parents, and we notice it when we pay attention.

How can I help you? We have within our reach the key to, by example, get them to pay attention to the moment of communication. They need to direct their doubts to someone they can trust, and we are certainly the parents.

Assessment process.

In order to obtain results in the education of young people we need to submit the situations they present to us to a process of evaluation. By asking the right questions we empower our children to self-evaluate what is right and what is wrong.

In this way we make them responsible for the criteria and decisions that will help shape their own perception of the world. Some parents often choose a lecture or scolding, a method that offers few and unfavorable results when we seek to stimulate rationality in thinking.

Questions.

The biggest problems for young people occur during integration and socialization with their peers. The discrepancies between them as a result of the game drive them to take defensive attitudes and postures that influence their character.

The best questions with which we can approach their concerns can be How do you feel about the issue? How can we solve it? Another question to help them define possible solutions is: How