Flexibility and self-acceptance

Principle 7: Flexibility (ability to adapt to different situations)

Flexibility, both behavioral and mental, is the seventh principle.

Since not everything in life can be controlled, the ability to adapt to different situations is key to well-being.

Rigidity makes us fragile in the face of unexpected changes.

Flexibility, on the other hand, allows us to flow with circumstances, find new solutions, and recover more easily from setbacks.

Principle 8: Self-acceptance (learning to accept ourselves as we are, with kindness)

Although it may seem obvious, self-acceptance is a principle that we often do not practice.

We have a great tendency to criticize our own flaws and to be much harder on ourselves than on others.

Ellis emphasizes the importance of learning to accept ourselves as we are, with our strengths and weaknesses, and to talk to ourselves about a kind and respectful way.

The Inner Critic and the Ease of Finding Our Own Flaws

The ''inner critic'' is that voice in our heads that constantly points out our mistakes and imperfections. This voice can be very damaging to our self-esteem and peace of mind.

Self-acceptance involves learning to dialogue with that critic, not to believe everything it tells us, and to cultivate a more compassionate inner voice.

The Importance of Respectful Internal Dialogue

The dialogue we maintain with ourselves is the basis of our relationship with the world.

If we treat ourselves harshly and contemptuously, it is difficult for us to feel good or relate in a healthy way with others.

A kind and respectful internal dialogue does not mean being conformist. It means treating ourselves with the same compassion w