Take risks and avoid the search for utopia

Principle 12: Take risks (know how to take risks to fight for what we want, without being reckless)

The twelfth principle tells us about the importance of knowing how to take risks. A full life involves leaving our comfort zone and fighting for what we want.

And this, inevitably, involves risks. Ellis doesn't advocate being reckless or reckless. She advocates being courageous.

Being aware that to achieve our goals, we will often have to face the possibility of failure.

Principle 13: Avoid the search for utopia (accept that life is not perfect or always pleasant)

Finally, the last principle is a call to realism: we must avoid the search for utopia.

The problem with thinking of emotions as "positive" and "negative" is that it leads us to seek a life free of the latter. But that is impossible.

We must understand and accept that life will not always be pleasant.

The happiness that comes from accepting difficulties and obstacles

We will be much happier if we are able to accept that life is not a utopia.

If we understand that difficulties and obstacles are an inherent part of existence.

True happiness does not lie in the absence of problems, but in our ability to face them appropriately.

Understand that not everything will turn out well and that this is part of life

We must internalize that, on many occasions, we will not achieve our goals. That things won't always go as planned.

Being able to accept this without being destroyed is a sign of great emotional maturity.

It allows us to enjoy the journey, with its ups and downs, instead of obsessing only over a perfect, unattainable destination.

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