Internal Image and Self-Esteem

Self-perception and its projection in interpersonal relationships

The internal image is the picture we have of ourselves in our mind.

It is defined by how we see ourselves, what we think of our worth and how we feel in our own skin.

This self-perception acts as a filter for everything we do: it directly conditions how we relate to others.

If a person perceives themselves as unworthy or incapable, they will project that insecurity in their body language and wardrobe choices, which in turn will influence others to treat them with less respect.

Conversely, a strong self-image fosters healthy relationships and a projection of security. External image is ultimately a reflection of this internal reality.

Building self-esteem without external validation

We often make the mistake of linking our self-esteem to external factors such as outside approval, material goods or job success.

However, true self-esteem is an internal construction born from the recognition and acceptance of our own essence.

It is not about seeking applause, but about knowing our virtues and defects and accepting them as part of our uniqueness.

Self-esteem is strengthened when we are congruent with our values and not when we try to fit into other people's molds.

An image consultant must first work on the client's recognition of his or her intrinsic value, as no luxury garment can hide a lack of self-esteem in the long run.

Self-image exercise and visualization

Our self-image is formed from childhood through comments from parents, teachers and friends, creating a "mental file" that sometimes contains outdated or incorrect data. To update this image, it is useful to perform visualization exercises.

An effective one consists of imagining ourselves in various situations (ideal, uncomfortable, feared) using mental "disguises" to explore how we would feel.

This allows us to identify which aspects of our current image are our own and which are inherited or imposed.

It is also vital to review self-demand: we are often our own cruelest judges.

Observing how children perceive their bodies (with freedom and functionality) versus how adults judge them (with aesthetic criticism) helps us understand that body dissatisfaction is learned and therefore can be unlearned.

Summary

Internal image is the self-perception that acts as a filter in our relationships. If we feel unworthy, we will project physical insecurity that will affect how we are treated.

True self-esteem is an internal construct that does not depend on external validation. It is strengthened by recognizing our uniqueness and virtues, without trying to fit into external molds.

It is vital to update our "mental picture" through visualization exercises. We must unlearn adult aesthetic criticism and observe the body with the freedom and functionality of a child.