Recognizing common humanity in anxious suffering

The 'common humanity' component of self-compassion is critical in countering feelings of isolation and the mistaken belief that one is alone in experiencing suffering, failure, or anxiety.

Recognizing that these experiences are an inherent part of the shared human condition can significantly alleviate discomfort.

The Experience of Isolation in Anxiety

When people experience intense anxiety or are going through hardship, it is common for them to feel alone, as if their problems are unique or as if there is something fundamentally flawed about them.

They may think, "No one else feels this way," "I'm the only one struggling with this," which intensifies shame and suffering.

This feeling of isolation is a trap of the mind that self-compassion seeks to dismantle.

Suffering as a Part of Being Human

Recognizing common humanity involves accepting that life inevitably brings pain, disappointment, mistakes, and imperfections.

No one is exempt from these experiences.

Anxiety, in its various forms, is one of the most widespread human emotions.

Remembering that millions of people around the world struggle with similar feelings of worry, fear, or insecurity can help normalize your experience and reduce self-criticism for feeling anxious.

This isn't about minimizing your own pain, but rather contextualizing it as part of a spectrum of shared human experiences.

Connecting with Others Through Shared Vulnerability

Understanding that suffering is universal opens the door to greater connection with others.

Rather than hiding your own vulnerabilities for