The search for care, freedom and growth

The need for care: connection and belonging

The need for care is an innate desire for connection and belonging with other human beings.

This need goes beyond simple interaction; it involves feeling valued, listened to and protected within a social circle.

When this need is not satisfied, we may feel isolated, invisible or lost, which can lead to dependency behaviors or, on the contrary, to emotional distancing, both of which are prone to generate conflicts.

In a work environment, for example, a lack of recognition and a sense of belonging in a team can manifest itself as defensiveness or poor performance.

To avoid such conflicts, it is crucial that we demonstrate empathy and genuine care in our interactions.

A simple gesture, such as taking the time to listen to someone or validate their feelings, can strengthen the sense of connection and prevent misunderstandings.

The need for freedom: the right to choose

The need for freedom refers to the fundamental right to choose how to live our lives, what decisions to make and which path to follow.

When this freedom is restricted or threatened, it is a common source of conflict.

This sense of coercion can come from rigid rules at home or at work, or from people trying to impose their will on ours.

When we feel trapped, we react with frustration and resentment, which can lead to a defensive posture.

Recognizing this need in conflict resolution is critical.

Instead of trying to control the other, we can offer choices and delegate decision making when possible.

This not only demonstrates respect, but also fosters a collaborative environment where both parties feel heard and valued.

It is important to remember that the control you think you have over another is an illusion that exists only in your mind.

The need for growth: progress and purpose

The need for growth is the desire to progress in life, to set goals and to see our achievements recognized.

This need goes hand in hand with the need for stimulation, which is the desire to keep our mind busy and challenged.

When these needs are not met, individuals may feel worthless, insecure or stagnant, which often manifests itself in conflict, as the individual seeks to validate his or her purpose indirectly, through negative attention.

In a work environment, lack of opportunities for growth or new challenges can lead to frustration and demotivation.

On a personal level, lack of purpose can lead to trivial discussions, as conflict becomes a way of feeling that one is still "active".

To avoid this, it is critical to identify growth needs in others.

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