Your personality as a filter of reality

Personality as an interpretive lens

Your personality, along with the way you think, feel and act, acts as a filter that determines how you interpret and respond to conflict.

The more you know yourself, the better decisions you can make in the midst of a tense situation.

How you perceive conflict "as a threat, a loss, a challenge or an opportunity" largely determines the emotions that are activated in you and how you handle the tension.

Conflict, beyond being a simple external event, is an internal experience that resonates with our beliefs, fears and values.

The perception of conflict can vary greatly.

One person may see a disagreement as an opportunity for growth, while another perceives it as a threat to his or her identity and security.

This difference in perception is deeply rooted in our personal history, our past experiences and our basic psychological needs.

When someone feels attacked, it is because their brain instinctively interprets that one of their essential needs is at risk.

Self-awareness as a key to emotional management

One of the main traps in conflict management is the tendency to project our own emotions and assumptions onto the other person.

We assume that the other person feels the same way or has the same intentions, which generates misunderstandings and causes tensions to escalate unnecessarily.

To avoid this trap, it is essential to develop self-awareness, which is the ability to recognize our own emotions, thoughts and behaviors in real time.

By reflecting on your habitual reactions to conflict, you can identify patterns, such as the tendency to avoid the problem, to react aggressively or to give in too much.

Once you are aware of your pattern, you can begin to consciously choose how to respond, rather than simply reacting out of inertia.

The key is to develop the flexibility to adapt your style according to the situation, understanding that each style has its usefulness depending on the context.

The goal is not to repress your emotions, but to act with maturity and leadership to transform the way you approach conflict.

Your personal conflict resolution plan begins with self-control, and this, in turn, begins with deep emotional self-awareness.

Understanding your conflict management style a