The Power of [First Person Statements]

The "I-statement" technique is a very effective tool for communicating feelings and needs assertively, without blaming others.

Unlike a "you-statement," which focuses the blame on the other person, the "I-statement" helps you take ownership of your emotions and be the center of your message.

This approach is clear, direct and honest, making it a fundamental technique for assertive communication.

The structure of "I-statements"

To make an effective "I-statement," you can use two main structures.

The first is: "When [situation], I feel [emotion]." For example, instead of saying "You are so messy!", you can say "When I come home and the house is a mess, I feel frustrated".

This structure allows you to describe the situation and express how it affects you, without directly blaming the other person.

The second structure is: "I need [what you need], otherwise I feel [emotion]."

This is useful for communicating what you would like the other person to do, as in "I need at least 48 hours' notice for these reports, otherwise I will be stressed and overwhelmed."

Both structures help you to be clear and express your needs directly and assertively.

Self-awareness as a basis

Using "I-statements" requires a high degree of self-awareness and being in touch with your feelings.

At first, it may be difficult to identify how situations affect you, but with practice, this technique will become natural and automatic.

By communicating in this way, you not only become more assertive, but also develop a greater awareness of your own emotions and desires.

Summary

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