Fundamental Identity (Being vs. Doing)

The "Doing" Identity Trap

A root problem in self-esteem and imposter syndrome is the confusion between who I am (Being) and what I do (Doing).

In modern society, it is common for people to build their identity entirely on their professional roles or external accomplishments.

If a person defines himself exclusively as an "Engineer" or "Manager", his personal worth is mortgaged to his job performance. If he loses his job or retires, he feels he ceases to exist or to be worth anything.

Therapeutic work consists of separating these two spheres, helping the individual to understand that his profession is an activity he performs, not the totality of his essence.

Components of Identity: Body, Soul and Spirit

To deepen self-knowledge, a tripartite model of the human being is used. The Body is the physical vehicle.

The Spirit (understood in a broad or philosophical sense) is the connection to the transcendent or deep values.

The Soul is composed of the mind (thoughts), will (decisions) and emotions.

The goal is for the person to recognize that his or her identity lies in this integral composition and how he or she chooses to use his or her faculties (will), not in the objects he or she possesses or the titles he or she holds.

This provides a foundation of emotional stability that is not dependent on the fluctuations of the job market or external success.

Recognition of Intrinsic Value

The intervention seeks to have the patient identify qualities that are inherent to his or her person and that would remain even if he or she were to lose everything material.

The patient is asked, "Who are you beyond your work?". Answers such as "I am honest," "I am creative," "I am loyal," or "I am persevering" point to the fundamental identity.

These characteristics (the Self) are more enduring and valuable than temporary accomplishments (the Do).

By anchoring self-esteem in the Self, the person becomes less vulnerable to imposter syndrome, since his or her value is not at stake every time he or