The Triangle of Truth: Bridging Perspectives

The limitation of a single truth

Most people engage in conflict by defending only one perspective: their own.

This approach, which clings to "my truth," perpetuates struggle and stagnation, as it becomes a battle of egos in which each person tries to prove that he or she is right and the other wrong.

The Triangle of Truth model offers a powerful tool to overcome this mentality, proposing that in every conflict there are three truths and that the real solution can only be found by recognizing and integrating all three.

The model is based on the idea that each party involved has its own story, its own feelings and its own interpretation of what happened.

The first truth, "my truth", is your personal experience: what you lived, felt and interpreted.

The second, "your truth", is the other person's perspective, which, although it does not coincide with yours, is equally valid within their frame of reference, their values and their wounds.

Resolution does not occur at the vertices of the triangle, but in the center, by recognizing and valuing these first two truths.

Uniting truths to build a solution

The third truth, the one that "transcends us," is where the magic happens.

This truth is what really happened, beyond individual perceptions, and represents the learning or growth opportunity hidden in the conflict.

It is the bridge that unites the first two truths to build something new, something that includes them both and allows them to move forward.

For example, instead of discussing who was at fault, the transcending truth might be the need to improve communication in the future to prevent the same problem from recurring.

To apply this model, a three-step process is followed:

State your truth with full responsibility: Speak from your emotional experience using first-person sentences, without accusing or judging the other.

Simply describe what you felt and what you think.

Listen to the other person's truth with openness: With an open mind, listen to how the other person experienced the situation, without interrupting or preparing your response.

Validate their emotions and paraphrase what you have understood to ensure mutual understanding.

Search together for the truth that transcends them: Propose questions that take them to a higher level, such as "What can we learn from this?" or "How can we build a solution that strengthens us both?".

By using the Truth Triangle, you stop fighting to be right and start looking for the true