Identify signs of tension and depersonalize.

Most conflicts don't erupt suddenly, but begin with subtle signs of tension, such as a sarcastic comment, a disapproving look, or an awkward silence.

It is crucial to learn to read these signs and not minimize them, since the earlier the discomfort is identified, the easier it will be to intervene before it becomes an open confrontation.

Detecting and disarming tension

A practical strategy to defuse conflict at its source is to pause and ask honestly if the other person wants to talk about the situation at that moment or later.

This simple act demonstrates maturity and opens a space for dialogue.

However, for this conversation to be productive, it is essential not to take things as personal attacks.

Often, a conflict escalates because we assume that the other person's comment or action was made with the intention of hurting us.

But in most cases, the other person may be stressed, confused or afraid, and their behavior is a manifestation of their own emotional state, not a direct personal attack on you.

If you react from your woundedness, you will only multiply the tension.

The power of the depersonalized perspective

One of the keys to staying calm is to remember that what others do says more about them than it does about you.

Before reacting impulsively, ask yourself if what happened was really an attack on you or if it is a reflection of what is happening to the other person.

When you don't take the other person's aggression personally, you free yourself from the need to defend yourself at all costs, which allows you to maintain emotional control of the situation.

Another person's aggressiveness does not define you, it only defines them.

Therefore, your goal is not to compete or justify your position, but to protect your emotional center.

True power lies in the ability to respond calmly and intelligently, rather than reacting impulsively to provocations.

This approach allows you to not only defuse conflict, but also to demonstrate leadership and maturity in any difficult situ