Keys to preparing and choosing the right time

Preparation is more than a script

To approach a difficult conversation effectively, preparation is essential, but it is not a matter of memorizing phrases.

The most important thing is to prepare your intention, that is, to be clear about what you want to achieve with the conversation, what you want the other person to understand and from what emotional place you are going to speak to them.

When you focus on your intention rather than a rigid script, your message will have more impact and power, as you will be speaking from clarity rather than reactivity.

This introspection exercise helps you differentiate between your genuine desires and your unconscious demands, allowing you to approach the conversation with a clear and constructive purpose.

A common mistake is to try to control the outcome, but the only thing you can control is your own reaction.

Therefore, your preparation should focus on your inner attitude: are you going to be open, assertive or calm?

By going into a difficult conversation with inner peace, you have a huge strategic advantage, as you don't get swept up in the emotions of the moment.

The right time and the right place

The second pillar of a successful conversation is choosing the right time and place.

Forcing a dialogue when one or both parties are in a state of high tension, such as in the midst of a crisis or after a stressful day, will only make things worse.

It is crucial to find a space that is private and quiet, where there are no distractions or interruptions.

This physical environment creates a framework of respect that facilitates dialogue and increases the chances of success. In addition to location, timing is key.

A difficult conversation should not always be resolved immediately.

If you feel that you or the other person is too upset, it is best to pause and postpone the conversation.

A simple "I don't think we're at the best time to continue, shall we continue talking later?" can be very powerful, as it gives both parties the time they need to calm down and think clearly.

Time, when used well, is a powerful tool for conflict resolution.

Finally, as you prepare, also consider the best alternative if you don't reach an agreement.

This gives you a sense of power and security, as you know you are not in a desperate situation.

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