Fears

Fears are a very common phenomenon in human nature, especially when we have to face challenging situations where we do not have everything under control. Feeling fear is not all bad, because it also works as an indication of some aspects we need to work on and improve. The problem related to fear is when it overcomes us, interrupting our progress and paralyzing our actions. This requires working on the management of our emotions, so that we learn to identify the sources of our fear and confront them with effective strategies.

During this guide we will be addressing some of the basic aspects related to this topic, so that you can learn to improve your emotional control, and work on the management of fear so that it does not become an impediment to your progress.

Fear and emotional control

Fear should not be fought from the perspective of wanting to eliminate it, but to learn to control it with the emotional intelligence required to do so. You must accept fear as a reality that will be in your way, you should not feel bad about suffering from it. The important thing is that it does not overcome you and that you understand that as an emotion, it does not belong to the rational side of your brain, so you must be stronger than it.

Emotional control will also be useful to know how to identify what kind of fear you are going through, because as we said before not all fear is harmful, but there is fear that is useful as an indication of aspects in which we must work and there are others that can become paralyzing for the development and progress of our tasks.

Paralyzing fear

The paralyzing fear is the most harmful of all, since it behaves as an obstacle for personal development and the growth of our projects. Paralyzing fear leads us to abandon the actions we want to carry out because of our inability to manage our emotional state. An effective strategy to manage paralyzing fear is to expose yourself progressively to those situations that are difficult for you to deal with.

If your stage fright is very strong, to the point that it does not allow you to interact in public, give a talk or a conference; you can start by trying to expose yourself in friendly environments that generate greater security. In this way your subconscious will gradually prepare itself to face more complex events, taking previous experiences as a way to shape your emotions.

Fear as an indication

As we explained, in many occasions to feel fear is not a symptom of anything negative. Many of us have been afraid in certain aspects of our lives, but this has not prevented us from developing our actions without any inconvenience. Fear is a feeling that responds to the human survival instinct, so it often tries to alert us to aspects that we should pay attention to. It is not wrong to be afraid of having to give a talk in English if you know beforehand that you are not fluent in that language, fear in this case is alerting you that your preparation is insufficient to carry out the task you intend to perform. This type of fear must be addressed by observing our shortcomings and working on improving our personal skills.

Improve your emotional control and learn to identify the sources of your fear and this will no longer be an inconvenience for your personal or professional progress.