Simulating Responses to Limit Resistance

Setting a limit is only half the way; the other half is knowing how to stick to it when faced with resistance.

It is very common for people, especially if they are used to us giving in, to insist, pressure or try to make us feel guilty when we set a new boundary.

This role-playing exercise is a practical tool to rehearse how to manage this resistance in a firm but respectful way, allowing you to gain the confidence to defend your boundaries in real situations.

Objective of the Exercise

The objective of this activity is for you to practice how to effectively manage resistance when people do not respect the boundaries you have set, allowing you to respond calmly and confidently rather than reacting impulsively.

Practice Instructions

Step 1: Imagine a Resistance Scenario

Think of a situation, either real or hypothetical, in which someone does not respect a boundary you have set.

For example, a person who insists on asking you for favors you have already refused, or someone who pressures you to change your plans even though you have said you cannot.

Step 2: Prepare Three Types of Responses

For that scenario, write down three possible responses you could give to handle the resistance in a firm but respectful way.

• Response 1: Hold the line without justifying yourself. A response that reaffirms your decision in a straightforward manner without unnecessary explanation. Example: "I told you I can't do it, and that won't change.
• Response 2: Reaffirm with empathy. A response that validates the other person's feelings, but maintains your boundary in a gentle but firm manner. Example: "I understand, but as I was saying, I need you to know that I can't commit to this right now."
• Response 3: Offer an alternative (if appropriate). A response that maintains the current "no", but opens the door to another possibility if you so desire. Example: "I can't do that now, but I'll be available another time if it's something urgent."

Step 3: Simulation and Reflection

Practice saying these responses out loud, either alone or with