Self-Worth as a Fundamental Pillar

Defining Self-Worth as an Antidote to Validation

In the face of the dangerous search for external validation, a much more important and fundamental value emerges: the recognition of our own unique worth.

This self-worth is born directly from our ability to recognize who we truly are, beyond the judgments or opinions of others.

It is the perfect antidote to the need to search for significance, as it anchors us in a source of security that is completely internal, stable, and very powerful.

By cultivating our self-worth, we stop depending on the approval of others to feel good, which drastically reduces one of the greatest sources of stress.

It is a radical change of focus, going from asking "what do they think of me?" to affirm with certainty "this is who I am."

The Construction Process: Discovering Our Talents

The process of building this self-worth begins when we honestly discover what our true talents and most authentic abilities are.

Through this journey of self-discovery, we will be able to begin to feel self-confident in a way that is much more correct and sustainable.

This security will no longer depend on external factors, but on a deep knowledge of the good things we have and that we can offer to the world around us.

It is a work of introspection that allows us to take inventory of our strengths, abilities, and intelligence, forming the basis of an unshakeable self-esteem.

The Liberating Consequence: The End of the Search for Significance

When we finally recognize our intrinsic value, we stop feeling the desperate need to be searching for significance in the eyes of others other people.

We begin to know with certainty that our worth is valuable in and of itself, and that it will be important and appreciated by the right people in our lives.

This newfound confidence frees us from the exhausting task of having to please everyone, allowing us to act with a confidence that comes from within.

We no longer feel the pressure of constantly having to prove our worth, because we have found it within ourselves and not in the validation that others may give us.

The "Risk" of Authenticity and Attracting the Right Connections

By taking the risk of being an authentic person, we may lose touch with some people who once loved us because of the mask we wore.

We may even find it harder to connect with new people at first, since we are not trying to conform to what we think they want to see.

However, despite these initial difficulties, we can face them because we are now completely sure of who we are and we are not afraid to show ourselves as we are.

The great benefit of this authenticity is that the right people will begin to appear in our lives, precisely when they need to appear and not before.

These new connections will be with people who identify with and value the person we truly are, thus creating much stronger, more honest and lasting bonds.